We all know that searching for love takes time – most of us have lived that, bought the t-shirt and have the scars to prove it, but we somehow still manage to find the not-quite-so-amazing people out there while searching for our soul-mates.
Admittedly, when you first meet someone, it’s not always apparent that they’re going to be a pain in the posterior – and one of the things you need to work out for yourself is whether their negative qualities are slight enough that you can just put up with them. If your date is showing one or more of the following types of behavior, you probably need to have that long hard think sooner rather than later:
- The Paranoid – assuming that every call you take is from another lover. You’ll find yourself having to constantly prove you are innocent.
- The Jealous Date – the Paranoid’s slightly easier cousin – they’ll be constantly in touch and jealous of anyone who takes up your time. You may have to reset all your passwords to get some privacy.
- The Liar – unable to stop telling stories and changing the details every time they breathe. It’s probably a call for attention, but how can you trust them when they say they love you?
- The Flocker – wanting to meet, greet and be accepted by all your friends and family so that they can start pumping them for information. Not necessarily the worst type of dating experience unless they then start using that information to exert control.
- The Controller – always wanting to be in charge and making all the decisions. Highly manipulative, you ‘ll end up feeling constantly on guard and uncomfortable.
- The Suicide Threat – with an addiction to drama, they will threaten to end themselves, or that they will be destroyed if you leave them. Even if you manage to move on, this date will try and follow you to try and sabotage your chances of happiness elsewhere.
- Jekyll/Hyde – the most amazing person in public, but they’ll be picking you apart the moment you’re alone. If they’re not putting you down, they’ll be putting down all the other people you know and making you feel isolated. How can you know what they really feel with all this deceit?
- The Clingy Date – capable of plumbing new depths of low esteem and leaping to the worst possible conclusions at a moment’s notice. They want to be with you all the time and be reassured that they are the center of their world.
Just remember that the only person responsible for your happiness and safety is yourself, so don’t be ashamed of taking care of yourself and your options. Dating is meant to be fun, so don’t let yourself be dragged down.